Learn to see that you are important and learn to say no when you don’t want to do something.
Do you have to be 100% available in your relationship?
Sometimes when people get married, they think that you have to always be available, but this is not true.
Even though this sounds perfect, it is not realistic, and it is a hurtful idea because it is impossible to have someone be available to someone ALL of the time.
When people in relationships try to be 100% available, it hurts the relationship and makes you feel angry at your partner or spouse.
Why does this make you angry?
Trying to always be there for someone can be exhausting.
If you can imagine being a professional that is always on call who is expected to be available for all situations from fixing a broken dishwasher to dealing with a family crisis, it would be impossible.
When family or life responsibilities become too much, you become stressed and aggravated, but there is a solution.
The solution is to say “no.”
Sometimes telling someone “no” can be hard because it seems like you are being mean to someone you love.
The truth is though, if you do not want to be angry and you want to have a positive relationship, then you need to be able to understand what makes you to have negative emotional responses.
One thing that causes negative emotional responses is when you are overwhelmed with life and you are forced to add something else to your life schedule.