Could communication save your marriage?
Very good communication is the strongest possible support for a struggling marriage.
Folks often say that talking gets people nowhere fast. This specific is surely not correct! Even so, I will acknowledge that there is a big difference with just talking and truly communicating with a person. If your words are falling on closed ears (and as a result, a closed mind), you’re absolutely not communicating in the most strict sense of the word– you are indeed just talking.
- Don’t Employ the Rake of History— Talking about another person’s past mistakes and misjudgments to shore up your position during a conversation will just make the other person miserable and protective at the same time.
Don’t misunderstand me. A person’s past experiences can be used to spruce up his/her behavior. However, there is an ideal time and place to mention previous experiences for future enrichment. Employing history for” mudslinging” is a totally separate situation.
- Aim to Put Across a Clear Message Each Time– Whenever a person feels hurt, the tendency is to mix bad emotions and various lines of communication in a single, impenetrable message that is very difficult to comprehend.
For instance, if a woman feels left out because her husband is always out drinking with his friends right after work, she might say something like “you’re sure relaxed every night!”